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Today was it. I lost it for the last time.

What if, only while around the house, you didn't allow her to wear any underwear or pants. Only clothing on top? Perhaps turn the heat up a tad lol? I trained my girls the "nakie-style," though this was June/July lol. My mom taught me how to potty train, she trained all 4 of us (2 boys 2 girls) within days and before the age of 2! Your daughter would probably mess up a couple times but REALLY detest the sensation of her bowel movement not having anywhere to "land" (sorry, I know that sounds gross). Just a thought because it worked for me....fast! GL!

I did try that for a bit. I dont mind cleaning up as long as the reward is worth it. But she'll run into her room and put on pants anyway.

Did anything happen/change a couple of weeks ago that could have caused the back tracking? You might want to try increasing the fiber foods (plus extra water/juice) to make sure she isn't constipated in anyway that it would "hurt".

her movements are fine. They're solid most of the time. She eats well. When she gets caught, she laughs. She thinks its funny and smiles unles she gets yelled at. Sometimes i just point to the bathroom and she runs in there and changes.

Well I don't know what your magical "answer" is but consistency is key. You, mom and the sitter/friend need a battle plan. Whether it's positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, ignoring, etc. she needs to be responded to the exact same way every single time. It doesn't matter who's potty she's on, the rules must transcend all households and caaretakers. My husband and I co-parent with our sitter. She spends a lot of time with the kids, so she was integral when it came time to potty training. So was my mom as the kids spend a lot of time at her house as well. We literally had a makeshift sit down and determined how to go about things - not like a hard-core contract or anything but you get the idea. I would highly recommend you do the same. Take their input into consideration, they may notice things that you don't. They're your allies. So make a plan to be consistent, then make up the plan together lol if that makes sense. Your child has a lifestyle where she has to be shuffled around a little bit and that's OK, a lot of kids are in that category. They can have consistent lives too it just takes teamwork.

IMO it sounds behavioral, especially the joking bit. So it will likely pass and you'll forget about this blip on the radar in no time. I know it's tough right now. Trust me! And don't feel bad about losing it. We all do, and those who claim otherwise are either liars or live in la-la land and just think everything's always peachy. I prefer the realists

I agree that everyone needs to be on the same page, whatever page that is. It seems like she might be reacting to something that you don't see as a big deal. That's okay, but until you figure that part out, everyone needs to help her with the potty thing. If you talk to everyone and say you want to do what is best for your daughter then they should all be willing to make and stick to a plan. Perhaps even the negative attention with potty issues is encouraging her. I have trouble understanding why negative attention works, but it does.

Thank you for your input. My sitter, who has 3 kids, 2 of which are older than mine is a great help. I do heed her advice. My mom tries hard to stick to what I ask. We have had a game plan and it was working. The only real change in the life style is her mom coming back around and thats only 2 days a week. Like I said, she was doing great and thought she was a big girl and ready to go to school. (her words). Now it seems Im back at square one. I guess she'll get it when shes ready. Yesterday was just a boiling point for me I guess.

I'm a little late on this post, but I wanted to say "hang in there!" Being a single parent is tough, but it sounds like you're doing a great job with your daughter. I was a single parent for a long time and I understand what you're going through. Her recent regression on potty training could just be due to two big changes in the past two months: school and mom being more involved. She may not even know why she's doing it. Like Chris093 said, it could just be a negative reinforcement thing. She may just be a little scared of the recent changes and is seeking more of your attention. I don't have any quick tips for you, but just talk to her, encourage her, and take lots of deep breaths....it'll pass. Good luck to you!

It might be a control thing also. I am having the same issue w/3 yrold son right now. He is very independent and is trying to work the system as much as he can. He is adamant that he can pee on the potty but no poop unless daddy at home. He switches the game at preschool too. He will pee on potty but will go in pull up too. I think at school he doesnt say anything or go himself bc he doesnt want to stop what he doing to go down hall (no potty in room unfortunately). Just something simple (like visiting mom sometimes) will throw a kid off schedule sometimes and make them regress just bc it is "different" to the reg schedule they usually have going on. I know that in my case my 3 yr old son is an 80 yr old man trapped in a 3 yr olds body for sure! lol Good luck to you!

Chris093 hit the nail on the head with the "losing it" thing. I absolutely agree with her that a little humility goes a long way with your kids. When I lose it, I always talk to my kids about it when the dust settles. We have all been there, and most times look back and feel bad for the way we reacted. I grew up in a household where there was way too much yelling, guilting, screaming, emotional abuse, etc. I promised myself I would never do that to my kids, but alas, none of us are perfect. Now, I never go to the extent that my parents did, but once in a blue moon when I yell at my kids, I apologize and explain to them why I got so upset. I really make an effort to handle things with respect and talk to my kids in a firm tone, with no yelling when they are in trouble. But I am not perfect and they should no that no one is and learn how to apologize from an example that I set.

My daughter is very indepented too. When she goes in the bathroom, God help you if your in there with her. She will yell at you to get out cause she wants her privacy. I usually leave and when I hear the flush I ask if she needs help. She says no but I help wipe anyway.

So I decided that I need to live at your house! I dont even have cable, heaven forbid! I dont know how to fully work my cell phone besides text and calls, I can pretty much only play mariokart on the wii (and maybe netflix if the 3 and 7 yr old sets me up). Do you have a spare room? I am potty trained (lol), can order pizza w/a passion on discount nights, pump my own gas, and can chaufer you around in my kickass Town and Country (all blinged out w/the scratches my 3 yr old but in it when he was pissed off at me this summer!)! Hope that made you giggle! GL! lol

hahahaha....*giggle smile.. i do have a spare room with cable. you can use one of the laptops around the house if youd like. my suv is great in the snow and in mint condition. and if you have any problems with anything then my daughter will show you how to work things....hahahaah